WHERE HEALTHY DATING CAN TAKE YOU

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WHERE HEALTHY DATING CAN TAKE YOU ☁️

A candid conversation with Beatrix & Jeremy

Kopi Date is committed to supporting singles with the clarity and mindset needed to build healthy, lasting relationships.

Welcome to Beyond the Brew, where we share heartfelt stories from the Kopi Date community — real journeys, real people, and the meaningful connections formed through intentional dating in Singapore. 🤎

Dating for Long-Term Relationship Kopi Date

Tell us the story of your first Kopi Date!

We took a walk around Haji Lane with a few Kopi Date questions to guide the way, but quickly found ourselves in deeper, more personal conversations. The connection felt natural.

What was dating like before Kopi Date?

J: I went on a few first dates through friends, but never tried dating apps, they always felt too transactional.

B: For me, dating was about meeting people who thought differently, people outside my usual social circle. On dating apps, there were all these unspoken rules, like decoding messages or texting for weeks before meeting. It felt emotionally exhausting, endless chats with people you barely knew, just floating around in your phone.

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How did you approach your Kopi Date experience?

J - One thing I’ve come to believe is that love isn’t something you fall into, it’s a practice. Real dating for long-term relationship starts when both people are willing to grow and understand each other.

I believe that dating isn’t a numbers game where you keep trying until it works, but it is two people being very intentional about understanding themselves and then actively striving to understand and support the other person for all that they are. […] there is self-development and knowing your own values and what matters to you

J - I have put in a ton of work in developing my sense of self and personal values. My approach to dating is broken down to 3 stages:

On the first couple of dates, trust your gut. Do you feel seen and safe?
On the next few, notice how they respond. Do they remember important things you've shared? Do they ask questions that show a growth mindset?
Before getting together, talk about what love really means to both of you.

I've spent a lot of time understanding myself and my values. That groundwork made all the difference.

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Why do you think Kopi Date worked so well for you?

J - I never used any other dating platforms. With Kopi Date, I wasn’t thinking of it as a typical dating app. The blind meetup felt refreshing, and I was just focused on getting to know someone sincerely. That’s what Kopi Date does best, creating space for meaningful conversations.

B - It has taken away so much hassle in thinking about “how to play the game”. Like having to approach someone, measure interest, then set up a meeting, all while sussing the person out online. Having Kopi date do an interview of all the people who are on the platform meant I met better calibre people, and i didn’t have to lift a finger to plan anything. I can just show up and see where the date goes.

Not having their contact or name beforehand also removes the judgement from online sleuthing and bonus, not having to save a stranger’s number!

How have you grown as individuals and as a couple since your first Kopi Date?

J - In our relationship I’m more of a thinker than a doer, while Beatrix is the opposite. As a partner, I think that living in close proximity creates a lot of situations there there is misunderstanding or miscommunication, and it’s a constant relearning process to be patient and understanding, not assuming to know the other person.

B - Learning to live with someone else besides yourself is a very rewarding thing. Your life expands and you have to slow down and become aware that what you do matters to someone else. That has made me more mindful with the way I spend my time, and the way i speak and express love. I have also learnt the value of protecting my time and energy for the more important things in life like my health, my personal growth and the core relationships i want to keep.

Advice to others thinking of joining Kopi Date!

J - In today’s dating scene, there’s a lot of pressure to find “the one.” But Kopi Date offers something different — space to be curious, honest, and present. So go in with curiosity.

B - Join only if you value your time and want to skip the hassle. You just need to show up — no endless texting, no mind games. The matches are thoughtfully curated, and that makes all the difference in finding meaningful dating in Singapore.

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Beatrix & Jeremy

I never came into Kopi Date thinking of it as just another dating platform. We were both committed to growth, willing to do the work early, that's what made the difference.
Kathy & Jun Hui

Kopi Date shifted how I see relationships and dating overall. It opened up new perspectives and helped me understand myself better in the process.
Iman & Alexandra

In any relationship, it comes down to honest communication and learning how to meet each other halfway.
Zach & Serena

Big shoutout to the amazing KD team, their thoughtful curation and care made all the difference. No regrets, just gratitude!