The Kopi Date

Manifesto

A World of Healthy Relationships

Executive Summary

Dear fellow humans,

Relationships are the single most important factor in determining the long-term quality of your life.

They affect everything (Harvard studies):
– your happiness levels,
- your physical health,
- your sense of fulfilment in life,
– even your financial success!

(If you’re not prioritising it yet, pro-tip: you should.)

Yet relationships are f*cking hard.
(70% of singles are unaware of this.)

Two flawed humans come together, carrying sky-high expectations of a perfect romance – yet limited understanding of themselves or what they truly need.

Easy recipe for disaster.

Many are frustrated with the dating journey itself – having to play a virtual pre-game of superficial comparisons or compete for attention at a mass dating event.

Some are insecure, each shaped by imperfect childhood experiences. Ill-equipped to deal with differences, conflicts, or any form of rejection.

Others may not have the ability to manage their emotions or simply struggle to hold themselves accountable for their actions.

In reality, the best way to build a great relationship is to start from the get-go — the dating stage.

This is where Kopi Date comes in.

We build a relationship platform for singles.

We designed the shortest path from singles to healthy relationships.

  • Spent 5,000+ hours talking to singles in Singapore.

  • Worked with relationship scientists and professors,

  • Condensed 80+ research papers.

We iteratively designed and fine-tuned our approach over the past 5 years to maximise success.

I’ll be honest...

It is not the easy or conventional path.

It’s WAY easier to fuel your expectations, over-promise, and try to headhunt for the ‘perfect love of your life’ for thousands of dollars. (If only relationships worked that way.)

OR to simply show you 20 attractive-looking profiles a day to play a virtual game of low-commitment sensing. (Best for passive daters, but emotionally draining for those who are intentional about human connections.)

At Kopi Date, we take a different road.

You meet offline, IRL, through curated meet-ups. You connect, build confidence, have fun, form meaningful connections, and grow. We support you directly with real human feedback and ensure you progress in your journey.

I believe a world of healthy relationships is a better world. We are committed to making it a reality.

I invite you to join us on your journey (and have fun along the way).

Liu Zhiqun
Co-founder, CEO of Kopi Date

Dating is broken.

From the swipe culture that turns people into commodities, to endless ghosting and the paradox of choice that keeps us in a loop of surface-level connections—modern dating isn’t designed for healthy relationships.

And it’s clear that existing dating platforms aren’t working.

Apps profit from endless swiping, not from people finding meaningful relationships. Algorithms prioritise engagement, not human connections. And as a result:

  • 44% of singles feel burnt out from dating

  • The average dating app user spends 90 minutes a day swiping

  • More than half of online daters never make it to a first date

  • Superficial connections make it harder to form real ones

  • The skills needed for a healthy relationship aren’t taught anywhere

 

So we built Kopi Date

The most intentional way to meet like-minded singles—rooted in growth, introspection, and meaningful connection.

We create experiences that help you meet people in a way that’s actually healthy. No algorithms. No endless swiping. Just real, human-first dating.

We believe dating should be intentional, growth-focused, and fuss-free—designed to help you gain clarity on what truly matters in a partner and build the relationship skills to sustain something real.

If modern dating were built today, it would look completely different.
Real conversations. Real skills. Real connections.

As the world demands more of us, we must demand more for ourselves.

We believe dating should be less about algorithms and more about understanding yourself and others—so that when you do meet someone, you know exactly what you’re looking for and how to build something real.

The future of dating isn’t mindless swiping. It’s about meeting the right people with the right mindset—and creating the shortest path to a healthy relationship.

The most complete
dating platform

Because dating is more than just meeting people.

From amazing first dates to engaging in self-reflections, receiving actionable insights through personalised feedback and more.

The beauty of a first date lies in anticipation, uncertainty, and the sense of boundless possibilities. Through discovering someone, there is the potential for so much more. 

In an age of instant but often lackluster gratification, don’t we miss the moments of wonder and hope? Don’t we crave the feeling of being part of something meaningful?

In today’s fast-paced and digitally-driven world, many of us find ourselves forgetting and forsaking organic human connections. But what happens when the hype and novelty wears off? Do we want more than a painted image and superficial niceties?

Let’s preserve that tingling, fluttering feeling called longing. Let’s once again revel in the beauty of a first date. Let’s connect with those that we meet, not by swiping or following them, but by discovering them as authentic individuals.

Connection & conversation; this is the Kopi Date experience.