The Kopi Date
Manifesto
A World of Healthy Relationships
Executive Summary
Dear fellow humans,
Relationships are the single most important factor in determining the long-term quality of your life.
They affect everything (Harvard studies):
– your happiness levels,
- your physical health,
- your sense of fulfilment in life,
– even your financial success!
(If you’re not prioritising it yet, pro-tip: you should.)
Yet relationships are f*cking hard.
(70% of singles are unaware of this.)
Two flawed humans come together, carrying sky-high expectations of a perfect romance – yet limited understanding of themselves or what they truly need.
Easy recipe for disaster.
Many are frustrated with the dating journey itself – having to play a virtual pre-game of superficial comparisons or compete for attention at a mass dating event.
Some are insecure, each shaped by imperfect childhood experiences. Ill-equipped to deal with differences, conflicts, or any form of rejection.
Others may not have the ability to manage their emotions or simply struggle to hold themselves accountable for their actions.
In reality, the best way to build a great relationship is to start from the get-go — the dating stage.
This is where Kopi Date comes in.
We build a relationship platform for singles.
We designed the shortest path from singles to healthy relationships.
Spent 5,000+ hours talking to singles in Singapore.
Worked with relationship scientists and professors,
Condensed 80+ research papers.
We iteratively designed and fine-tuned our approach over the past 5 years to maximise success.
I’ll be honest...
It is not the easy or conventional path.
It’s WAY easier to fuel your expectations, over-promise, and try to headhunt for the ‘perfect love of your life’ for thousands of dollars. (If only relationships worked that way.)
OR to simply show you 20 attractive-looking profiles a day to play a virtual game of low-commitment sensing. (Best for passive daters, but emotionally draining for those who are intentional about human connections.)
At Kopi Date, we take a different road.
You meet offline, IRL, through curated meet-ups. You connect, build confidence, have fun, form meaningful connections, and grow. We support you directly with real human feedback and ensure you progress in your journey.
I believe a world of healthy relationships is a better world. We are committed to making it a reality.
I invite you to join us on your journey (and have fun along the way).
Liu Zhiqun
Co-founder, CEO of Kopi Date
If you're curious about what differentiates Kopi Date from other companies and you've landed on this page seeking clarity, you're in for a treat. However, a brief summary won't do it justice. That's why we've dedicated a whole website to it. Good thing it's a captivating one ;)
Dive in when you're ready. (Just a nudge, take your time and begin at your own pace.)
1 A LETTER TO SINGLES
2 OUR MISSION
3 HOW WE 🪄CURATE DATES
4 OUR PROMISE 🗝️ TO YOU
5 SECOND DATES & BEYOND
6 WELCOME TO THE ☕ POST-SWIPING GENERATION
A LETTER TO SINGLES
Hi everyone,
I’m Zhiqun, Co-founder here at Kopi Date.
Modern dating gets a bad rap, but it shouldn’t. Meeting new people should be beautiful.
It feels special to see someone for the first time. Slowly peeling away the layers of politeness reveals the passions and stories within us—the occasional nervous laughter, slight pauses, and moments of tension rising and falling. You become friends, learn about each other’s flaws and challenges, and discover life together, growing gradually.
That’s how dating used to be all the time.
But things have changed.
We’ve started treating dating like a shopping experience—picking and choosing based on trending attributes: hot, tall, ambitious, rich, and kind.
“All my problems will end when I meet The One. Where’s that perfect product human for me?”
Social media, and sometimes even our friends, reinforce this idea.
Now it feels like a chore. It’s become a process of endless swiping and searching. Meeting people feels like a waste of time when they don’t tick off all the boxes on my checklist (influenced by dating reality shows). Dates turn into interviews, and judgment breeds frustration.
Every relationship we eventually develop turns unhealthy quickly when challenges arise.
Yet, meeting new people and building a great relationship is a wonder. We develop new identities, share treasured moments, appreciate one another’s strengths, evolve ourselves and our partner, overcome hardships, create new milestones, enjoy great health, and rediscover the meaning of our lives.
It’s fundamental to our existence.
The good news? The magic is still there. It’s just buried under a mess of poor perspectives and online clutter—some from the people around us, some from dating companies, and much of it from social media and modern dating culture.
Modern dating needs a refresh.
With Kopi Date, we’ve done just that. It’s a redo, a rethink, a simplified, potent reintroduction to dating—healthily.
We’re bringing dating back to the fundamentals—starting from within, in real life, as humans first.
Our program shortcuts your path to a healthy, long-term relationship as you meet curated individuals with shared values and common goals.
Equipped with the best perspectives, skills, and introspection, dating becomes enjoyable and rewarding.
Your grandma would be proud of you for enrolling in this.
Kopi Date is our love letter to the world of healthy relationships.
Sign up now to get started.
Love,
Zhiqun
OUR MISSION
Healthy relationships are essential for a fulfilling life. At Kopi Date, we believe in the importance of cultivating resilient relationships, starting with the dating process. Our focus on personal growth and fostering meaningful connections ensures that our members have the tools and resources they need to create long-term, fulfilling relationships.
Kopi Date curates offline coffee dates built on growth and introspection for singles to enter healthy relationships.
We believe that dating is an opportunity to explore and learn about ourselves while connecting with others. Through celebrating individualities and fostering personal growth, we empower our members to become the best versions of themselves and to attract partners who appreciate and cherish them for who they are.
Here at Kopi Date, we are dedicated to designing thoughtfully-curated date experiences in the most humanised setting possible. We are committed to empowering singles to create intentional and fulfilling first date experiences that pave the way for grounded, successful relationships.
Learn more: The Kopi Date Thesis 🪄
HOW WE 🪄CURATE DATES
Warm, slow brew over meaningful exchanges. Getting lost in conversation. The art of finding yourself—in getting to know someone new. Every Kopi Date is thoughtfully-curated, an experience designed for simple, genuine connections in person.
Our approach is simple.
At Kopi Date, we celebrate you–what makes you human and unique. We learn more about your you and your story and curate the most amazing first date with great conversations as an end goal in mind.
So while your Kopi Dates are a potential for something life-changing to bloom, we hope it will also spark new conversations, your path of learning and self-discovery, and lead to new adventures.
OUR 🗝️ PROMISE
TO YOU
Let’s keep it real for a moment. We’re far from being a flawless company. But we genuinely care.
At our heart, people come before profits. We’re here to create a space where individuals can build meaningful bonds, gain insights about themselves and others, and grow stronger relationships over time.
As we work to craft the most thoughtful first date experience, we're always on the lookout for fresh ideas to elevate our platform. Got suggestions? We're all ears.
Our values
Over the years, we’ve grown into a few core values that guide everything we do — how we curate experiences, how we treat people, and how we show up in the world.
BE REAL, BE GROUNDED
We believe good relationships are built on honesty and self-awareness. We show up as we are — real, human, imperfect — and we respect others who do the same. Growth starts with seeing things as they are.
GROW, ALWAYS
Healthy relationships don't happen by accident. We value curiosity, courage, and growth. We encourage learning through every date, every conversation, and every connection — because becoming better humans is a journey without a finish line.
ACT WITH INTENTION
Time, attention, feelings—none of it is throwaway. We choose thoughtfully, respect boundaries, and spend our energy where it matters.
At Kopi Date,
82% of members
indicate they are open to go on second dates
Our commitment to
Long-Term Fulfilling Relationships
At Kopi Date, our commitment is firmly rooted in progression.
We're more than a dating service; we're a growth-driven community. Our mission is to not only initiate memorable first dates but also foster their evolution into successful second, third dates and beyond.
We see every subsequent date as an opportunity to deepen connections and foster a healthy, successful relationship.
FREE! Healthy Dating Guide
Healthy relationships are essential for a fulfilling life.
Our Healthy Dating Guide is designed to help singles date healthily and build long-term, fulfilling relationships.
